Porn - (Can Women Watch It and Not Feel Ashamed)?

In a world where sex sells, why are so many women shy about porn? This question came to me last night when we had a small gathering at my house. The women were outnumbered by the men and the subject of porn came up. Of course the men were all for it. It is a proven fact that men think about sex more than they think about anything else.

I admitted that I enjoyed porn, but my close friend immediately grew uncomfortable. She said she did not understand why someone would want to watch anyone else have sex. She was totally disgusted. On the other hand, her husband was the complete opposite. Admitting to watching things that I would never admit to. Like cartoons having incestuous sex, animals getting their freak on, and curious women participating in sexual activities with those outside their own species. I thought it was hilarious. Unfortunately my dear friend, began to blush - hide her face in her shirt, and her face was turned into a expression like there was a bad stinch in the room.

I have met so many women who just do not agree to porn, or maybe they just won't admit it. Regardless of that fact, the question still stands - can women watch porn and not feel ashamed? Of course my response is, why the hell not? Watching people do it, is hot! What is so bad about it? I say when you're married you can do any freaky thing you want and not feel guilty. Hey I recommend it. If you plan to get married and STAY married, the freak in you may have to come out.

I compare sex to food. It is a need, a nourishment, and when watching others do either, a reaction is bound to happen. For example, I like watching cooking shows. The food looks so delicious I immediately get hungry. Of course I can't smell the food, taste the food, or even feel the food - I still have a desire to eat. I do not have to eat the food I am looking at, I just need to eat food. Porn is the same way. When watching two people engage in something that is completely natural, I admit, it's arousing. I don't want to have sex with the people on the screen, I just want to have sex.

So you are probably wondering at this point, how can I get into porn? Well, some of you may never get into it. It may not be your thing. BUT, if you are considering, I recommend beginning your journey watching soft porn. What is soft porn you ask? Basically, if you ask some, it's not real porn. You will see breasts, some vagina pubic hair, and some butt cheeks - that's about it. No penises involved. Literally. There is no real intercourse, just the illusion. The great thing about soft porn is that they have a story line (the acting is not good), but you're not watching it for Oscar purposes. Hey, now that I think about it, it is just like soap opera's! If you decide porn isn't so bad, you can continue to watch this or you can move to the hardcore porn.

What is hardcore porn? This is what you have to brace yourself for. IT INCLUDES PENISES. Yes real one's! Curved ones, short ones, long ones, strong ones. You get my drift. You will see them go in and out of places that you didn't know they could go. The vagina will be so close to the camera, you will be able to perform surgery. You will see every position being performed from a 500 page Kama Sutra manual, things you didn't even think possible. I caution watching these with your significant other, he may want to experiment with you. If this happens, remind him that these are professionals. If he saw a athlete sprint a entire mile in one minute, would he expect you to do that to?

Don't knock it - until you try it. You just might like it. If you don't, that's okay too. It doesn't mean something is wrong with it or you. Just because you do not agree with it, does not mean everyone else shouldn't either. Don't be caught up in the idea of what women should do and be. That was a bunch of bull crap rules that a man came up with, so that he could maintain power. We are working these days and coming home to second shift jobs of cleaning, cooking, and watching children. If I want to kick back with a beer, a remote, and porn. I should be able to do so without being judged.

With that said, some porn can be pretty brutal, even I wouldn't watch it. There are some sick minds out there producing it. At the same time there are some female porn producers who consider women in their work. If your first porn experience was one in which the man seems to be the only one getting pleasured, I see why you've been turned off. Different porn for different people. Some porn can be borderline abusive to women (and vice versa via dominatrix). So weening out the good from the bad can be hard. Look for female producers on the box before you buy.

In conclusion, can women watch porn and not feel ashamed? Of course they can. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Having sex is part of human nature, just like food, shelter and water. If you don't agree, lets agree to disagree. On the other hand if you have suddenly been persuaded to open up your mind and try it, good luck! (Hope you enjoy it).